Why Was my Wife Unfaithful to Me?

When you look at statistics today, the numbers on cheating are really quite startling. For a lot of men, the most surprising fact of all is that the number of wives who cheat is almost the same as the number of husbands who cheat. This has never happened in the history of mankind before.

What should be realized is that the reasons why women cheat are frequently vastly different from the reasons why men cheat. Here are several of the most frequently stated reasons why women cheat on their men.

Husband is not giving her what she needs

Everyone has needs. It is part of human nature. Successful relationships are based on both sides having their needs met. This requires a significant level of effective communication that addresses the individual needs, what those needs are, and how they are met in the best way. That's quite a challenge for a lot of couples. It is a major one.

The other challenge is that the woman does not always realize what that need is until someone else appears and astonishes her by fulfilling that need. It's difficult to compete with that. However, that still is not an excuse for her cheating either. It only makes her vulnerable to the man who is meeting this need that had left her feeling unfulfilled for such a long time.

The other man pays attention

Even though they are married, women who cheat often feel very lonely. You may not be wonderful in conversation, but when you don't pay attention to your wife and to what she says to you, it makes her feel lonely, isolated, and abandoned.

It makes her the perfect target for a man who is interested in a "no strings attached" relationship with a married woman or for a man who has the intention of winning over your wife. He just has to pay attention to her, listen to her when she talks, and respond in a positive manner. She becomes putty in his hands.

She feels like her husband is taking her for granted 

A lot of women don't feel appreciated at home. She feels discouraged that her husband and her family do not notice or appreciate her efforts. She feels like people take her for granted and that nobody really cares that she is really there.

Then a along comes a stranger who shows his appreciation for her, making her feel like the center of his world, and really noticing the smallest things. She no longer feels like she is taken for granted. In fact, she is feeling excitement and a wide range of emotions that she has not felt in a very long time.

Research shows that women are less likely to have an affair just because the chance is there. Frequently, it is not a casual decision. That is why women's affairs are often more devastating to the the marriage than the affairs of men.

You can actively strive to prevent this from happening by paying more attention to your wife, noticing the little details, showing her your appreciation, and devoting yourself to finding out and fulfilling her most important needs. You will be amazed at what a difference these little steps will make in the quality of your marriage and your relationship with your wife.